"I’ve never regretted any relationship I’ve been in. Even the ones that brought bad things. They’re all opportunities to learn and grow." - one of my bosses, at TJ’s. I used to think similarly to this poster, but as time has past, I have learned to value enjoying various types of relationships with various types of people for different parts of my life. I have learned so much from each one, and each one helped me through some very hard parts of my life. Connecting with another individual on a personal level forces you to connect with yourself on a whole new level - you must learn to be more self aware, selfless, and kind when you are dating someone than you may be when you are alone.
I’m beginning to forget why I ever only wanted to date one person and get married. I’m beginning to think that was just fear and hollywood talking. “I don’t want him to compare me to exes” ??? No way, I don’t want him to spend 30 years of his life lonely and restrained just because I’m not there with him. I hope whoever I end up with has a million happy memories and treasures all of them.
My boyfriend over the summer was a guy who had slept with 24 women. The funny thing is, I could openly say “I know I am not the hottest girl you have ever made out with. I am sure some of the previous 24 girls in your life were hotter.” and that was completely okay with me, because relationships aren’t about competing, they’re about loving.
Think or say what you wish, but I am wiser, fuller, happier and more whole because I have chosen to embrace relationships for the sake of the relationship, not for the sake of the future.